Anger Management
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Anger is a change in behavior designed to communicate "Stop your behavior immediately. If you don't, violence towards you may follow." In the animal kingdom, animals make loud sounds if they are threatened physically. That is an attempt to look physically larger, bare their teeth and stare. Humans also behave in similar manner when there are perceptional pains and decision to oppose is done. A physical altercation, without prior expression of anger, by at least one of the participants, is very rare. Because we have language, humans usually have written threats and verbal insults. Hence we may not perceive an immediate physical threat, but can feel pain psychologically.
Anger can arise without a direct physical threat and without the actual person being present. Our imagination about future events can cause us fear and anxiety. Therefore anger does not necessary come from something occuring in the present. Humans have some behavioral norms related to social survival. If anybody does not follow these norms, anger arises. For example, the lack of respect. This may break social or interpersonal safety rules. After encountering incidents of others being treated with prejudice, people get nervous and angry, though they are not personally involved. All this to say that humans experience anger empathetically.
Sometimes anger may result in physical action or shouting loudly. Everyone gets angry. Many people will react very quickly to the perceived pain. It may happen that some lose their coolness and hit the roof. The difficult part is learning what to do with these strong feelings. Sometimes it is important to get angry. .Children will understand their mistakes if their teacher shows some anger towards them. But anger must be released in the proper way. It can be compared to steam gathering under the lid - it will blow the lid. When that happens its no fun for anyone.
The solution is not to take your anger out on others. Instead of that, you should admit to yourself that you are angry and try to figure our why. You can talk with someone like a parent, relative or teacher. When you talk about your anger, your bad thoughts normally vanish.
Don't think for a moment that you will never get angry. But, remember that how you act when you are angry will worsen or improve the situation, then you will not lose control.